Preparedness
The pillar most people want to skip.
Preparedness is the pillar with the paperwork. Wills. Powers of attorney. Healthcare directives. Insurance. Emergency contacts. The folder nobody wants to open.
I avoided it for years. I told myself I’d get to it after the holidays, or when things slowed down. They never slowed down. And when my husband was hospitalized for two months, I realized I had “some things” but not a plan. I had a pile of paperwork I couldn’t find and a list of names I couldn’t remember under pressure.
Here’s what I’ve come to believe about Preparedness. It isn’t about death. It’s about protecting the people you love from having to make impossible decisions in the middle of the worst day of their lives. Everything I write in this pillar is about making those decisions easier to find, clearer to act on, and less likely to require guessing. Start wherever you want. Just start.
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Latest in Preparedness
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The 5 Documents Every Adult Over 55 Needs (And Most Don’t Have)
I used to tell myself I'd get around to this. The problem with "getting around to it" is that you never know when "around to it" is actually too late. I learned that the hard way. I'm not going to tell that story here. I've told it before, and I've told it long...
Planning Ahead Isn’t Giving Up. It’s the Most Loving Thing You Can Do for Your Family.
Someone asked me once why I spend so much time on this. Isn't it depressing? Doesn't it just make you think about getting old? I said no. Not planning is depressing. Planning is what gives you your life back. I want to talk about that. Because I think the reason most...
I Was the Person Who Said ‘I’ll Deal With That Later.’ Here’s What Changed My Mind.
This is the article I wish existed three years ago, before someone I loved faced a crisis their family wasn't prepared for. That someone was me. The crisis was my husband's two-month hospital stay. And the family that wasn't prepared was mine. If you've ever told...
How to Organize the Folder Nobody Wants to Open
A simple system for keeping the important papers together, plus the one page that makes everything else make sense when someone else has to find it.
What I Wish I’d Known About Powers of Attorney
POAs aren't a single document. They're a small family of documents, and choosing the wrong kind can create bigger problems than not having one at all.
The 5 Documents You Need Before a Crisis
The folder nobody wants to open, explained. Which documents actually matter, which ones can wait, and how to know you've got the basics covered.
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